Feng Shui Your Mind

COMPLETE THOSE TASKS AND FIND FREEDOM AT LAST

As the year draws to an end it’s a good time to look back over all those dreams, hopes and ambitions you set for the year last January and admit to how many of them are left incomplete, or worse still, not even started. Procrastination abounds, it seems, in the human psyche. All too often we have ready excuses for all those projects left unfinished. They lie around cluttering our environment, tripping us up and glaring at us from the corner of the room where they are gathering dust and making us feel guilty. They are constant reminders of our inability to just get the job done. Even if you don’t literally fall over them because you never got any further than the dreaming stage, they still lurk in the corners of our mind, piling up with all those other discarded good intentions and unrealised ambitions, taking up space and clouding our everyday thinking. If we don’t feng shui our minds as well as our living room, all those unfinished gremlins will continue to haunt us, nagging in our ear, and causing us to suffer in unimaginable ways.

They can cause us to beat ourselves up, get angry and depressed, give us headaches, backaches and even soul aches as that energy, released in a rush of enthusiasm and now blocked, seeks to complete itself. So we owe it to ourselves and our fellow man to finish what we start and then allow ourselves to wallow in the freedom and satisfaction of having got the job done.

Polarity gives us a clear example of how all this is supposed to work.

Whenever we want to create something in our lives we go through a well established creation cycle. It goes something like this

 1. Our mind is quiet

2. Into the quiet space in our mind enters a thought.

3. That thought is followed by flash of enthusiasm—a Eureka moment!

4. Following this revelation comes the determination to put that thought into action.

5. Then there is a period of physically creating or making manifest that original thought.

6. Then the completion of the project. That first thought is now made solid for all to see and experience.

7. Finally there follows a period of reflection and assessment and hopefully we see that what we have made is indeed good.

 If all this is reminiscent of a certain biblical story that’s because it is an age old story of creation that we enact every time we decide to create something new in our life. It is literally programmed into our genes.  It is so natural that we do not give it a second thought. Well actually that’s not quite true, because unlike the cycles of the seasons, and the movements of the planets, we humans often fail to complete this natural way of genesis. Let’s look at some of the reasons why this might be.

 BLOCKS TO COMPLETION

 

It’s amazing how often we can literally talk ourselves out of hanging in there and getting the job done. The culprit is those little, yet potent, voices in our heads that lead us astray more often than we care to admit. Here is a list of some of the ways in which the way we think can block our creative processes.

Polarised thinking

This kind of thinking is all in black and white. In other words if you don’t succeed then you must be a failure. There is no middle ground. This leads to a tendency to take all the negative details and magnify them whilst filtering out the positive. Too much negative thinking can make it easy for you to give up.

 Making a mountain out of a molehill

You expect and then plan for disaster. In other words, as soon as a problem arises you begin thinking to yourself “What if...” Then you imagine the most catastrophic scenarios possible until, totally overwhelmed, you become paralysed with fear. The opposite of this would be the phrase ‘don’t sweat the small stuff!’

 Who said life is fair?

An overblown sense of fairness can leave you feeling resentful because you think you know what is fair but other people don’t necessarily agree with you. This kind of thinking can lead to blaming and holding other people responsible for your failure or conversely turning the blame in on yourself. Either way it’s not helpful.

The ‘should’ word

If you have strict unbending rules about how things ‘should’ be then when things don’t work out that way you can end up feeling angry or guilty and then giving up.

 Taking things personally

When you do this then everything that people say and do is taken as some kind of reaction to you. It can lead to the odious trick of constantly comparing yourself to others and failing to accept genuine critiques of your work. If you believe yourself to be wanting, or inferior in some way, then that can stall your creative endeavour.

 Here we go again!

When you over generalise a situation you come to a conclusion based on a single incident or event that happened in the past and expect the same result to be repeated over and over again. “The last time I tried to plan a dinner party it was a miserable failure so I won’t do that again.”

 Heaven’s Reward Policy

This policy states that all your hard work and sacrifice will somehow pay off, as if someone up there is keeping a cosmic score card. You can feel bitter if the reward doesn’t come, and convinced that you should never attempt anything again. After all, what’s the point?

  

This kind of thinking lowers self-esteem, blocks creativity and action as well as wasting precious time when you could be getting on with the task in hand.

 

Do any of these ways of thinking apply to you?

If the answer is yes then

dump them now!

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Adapted from Don’t Start What You Can’t Finish by Morag Campbell available on Amazon